- Surrogates do it for the money.
- While it’s true that surrogate compensation is appealing, the majority of women choose to become a surrogate because they enjoy being pregnant and understand they are helping another couple that is unable to have a child without the need for a surrogate. Unfortunately, many who believe women who become surrogates do it for the money, also believe the stereotype that a surrogate must be poor and uneducated and is being financially coerced. However, the income requirements to become a surrogate are very stringent and do not allow those who receive government assistance to become a surrogate. For example, statistics from Minnesota show an average education level of 3.5 years of college and an average household income of $90,000. One final thing to consider regarding surrogates doing it for the compensation—if a woman is receiving compensation of $30,000 for almost a year-long process, that amounts to far less than minimum wage if you consider the surrogate is pregnant and “working” 24/7 for at least nine months of that time.
- “I could never give up the baby.”
- For a lot of people, this is their number one reason for choosing not to be a surrogate. While emotions are high during pregnancy and surrogates do care for the child they are carrying, they understand they are simply allowing another couple to have a child of their own. Surrogates undergo very extensive and thorough psychological screening to ensure they are mentally fit to carry a baby for someone else; that being said, it’s best explained that a surrogate understands that she is not giving the baby up, but instead she is giving the baby back to its parents.
- What if the surrogate is “stuck” with the baby or wants to keep the baby?
- Despite the media and made for TV movies, surrogates rarely are “stuck” with or want to keep the baby. The process to become a surrogate is lengthy and involves psychological testing as well as legal contracts. Women must undergo psychological testing and interviews with a counselor to ensure they are mentally and emotionally capable of being pregnant with a child that will ultimately go to another set of parents. It’s understandable that a surrogate mother may become emotionally attached to the child she is pregnant with or the parents are concerned the surrogate may change her mind; however, legal contracts are put into place that ensure any biological rights the surrogate mother may have are terminated.
- The baby will be genetically related to the surrogate.
- Traditionally the surrogate mother was related to the child; however, gestational surrogacy now allows for the surrogate to carry a child biologically related to the intended mother and intended father by making an embryo using the mother’s eggs and the father’s sperm or donor egg and/or donor sperm. The embryo is then implanted into the surrogate mother who then becomes simply the carrier of the intended mother’s baby meaning she is not genetically related to the child.