Thinking about becoming a surrogate

You might be ready to apply, or you might just be curious. Either way, we'd love to talk. At My Donor Connection, we'll get to know you, answer your questions, and help you understand how a surrogacy journey could fit into your life.

Your preferences matter, from the intended parents you connect with to the compensation package you want to propose.

MDC coordinates gestational surrogacy. This means carrying a pregnancy for intended parents using an embryo created through IVF, without using your own eggs.

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The prescreen is the first step. If it is accepted, you'll be invited to complete a more detailed questionnaire.

A few things to know before applying

We welcome applicants ages 21–40 who are U.S. citizens and have had at least one healthy, full-term pregnancy with an uncomplicated delivery. A BMI of 30 or below is preferred. We’ll get to know your history during the application process, and your fertility clinic will determine medical eligibility.

Not sure whether you meet every guideline? You’re welcome to ask. We’d rather have a conversation than leave you guessing.

Financial stability

Surrogacy compensation can make a meaningful difference for your family. We also want you to feel financially secure before beginning this journey, without depending on a future match to meet everyday needs.

Some assistance programs are reviewed individually. Applicants currently receiving SNAP benefits, also known as food stamps, are not eligible for our program. If you have questions about your situation, we’re happy to talk privately.

Other practical requirements

You’ll need to be ready to:

  • Complete medical and psychological screening.
  • Participate in a background check. We also conduct background checks on intended parents.
  • Attend appointments and follow the clinic’s medication instructions, including injectable medications.
  • Abstain from recreational drugs, alcohol, and nicotine throughout medical screening and pregnancy.
  • Have reliable transportation and a valid driver’s license.

You help shape your compensation package

At MDC, you choose the compensation and benefits you want to request. We'll walk through the options with you, including expenses and support that matter to your family. Then we look for intended parents who are comfortable with your proposal. Your independent attorney reviews the agreed terms with you before you proceed.

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Find a match that feels right to you

We'll talk about the relationship you hope to have with the intended parents, your expectations, and what matters to you. You'll have a chance to learn about a potential match and talk together before deciding whether to move forward. Both you and the intended parents have a voice in that decision.

Finding a match that respects your values

Some of the most important matching conversations are also the hardest to imagine in advance. What if a serious medical concern comes up during pregnancy? How do you feel about pregnancy termination or selective reduction?

You don’t need to give us the answer you think we want to hear. We want to understand how you truly feel.

Many intended parents hope to match with someone whose views align with theirs about these decisions, taking medical guidance into account. Having specific boundaries does not automatically disqualify you, but it may mean a smaller pool of compatible families and a longer wait for the right match.

We won’t ask you to change your beliefs to make a match work. We’ll help everyone discuss expectations openly, with guidance from medical professionals and separate attorneys, before moving forward. Your voice and consent to your own medical care remain essential throughout the journey.

What would your journey look like

  1. Get to know us. Start with the prescreen and application. We'll talk about your questions, review your information, and help gather the records needed for the next steps.
  2. Explore your package and a match. We'll discuss your preferences and help you connect with intended parents whose expectations fit with yours.
  3. Complete screening and legal agreements. The fertility clinic determines your screening and medical eligibility. Your own attorney reviews the agreement with you.
  4. Follow your clinic's plan. Once the required clearances are in place, the clinic guides medications, embryo transfer, and early monitoring. It will tell you when to move to your local OB or other pregnancy-care provider.
  5. Prepare for delivery and recovery. We'll stay connected as you prepare for the birth and through postpartum recovery, helping coordinate the support included in your agreement.

Walk through the surrogacy process

A few questions you might have

You may need to travel for screening and embryo transfer. We'll talk about the expected travel and expense arrangements before you proceed.

A journey can take a year or longer from application through delivery, followed by recovery. Matching, screening, legal work, and transfer scheduling all affect the timing. We'll discuss what to expect for your situation.

We'll discuss the relationship you want during pregnancy and after delivery as part of matching. You and the intended parents can talk through those expectations before moving forward.

Of course. You can contact us to learn more before deciding whether you'd like to apply.

What would you like to know

You don't need to have everything figured out before reaching out. Ask us a question, or start the prescreen when you're ready.

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